[Dating Papers]

A friend of mine recently shared with me some dating wisdom that she had picked up from a couple of unsuccessful dating experiences. In a nutshell, she recommends that you plan only one date at a time (even though you may be communicating with a number of other people) to enable you to concentrate fully on your date without distractions.

She’s not saying that you should pin all your hopes on just one date, but she now firmly believes that you must focus on one person at a time to be able to really get to know that person and to give that relationship a chance to develop.

She told me:

“With the don’t put all your eggs in one basket philosophy uppermost in my mind, I allowed myself to get into the position where I had two dates lined up in one week. I found this situation to be very distracting - on my first date I was thinking “he’s not 100% perfect but tomorrow’s date might be….” and on the second date I found myself constantly comparing the second guy with the first on just about everything whilst thinking “I wonder what the first guy would say /think about that?”.
Although both dates were enjoyable, the alternatives were constantly on my mind and ultimately I realised I’d been unfair to both guys, as I didn’t really pay as much attention to them individually as I should have done. Ironically, I really really liked the first guy but he told me he found me a little distant and never called again! “

I’m sure many of you, like myself, can totally identify with this story. That’s why I’m passing on the benefit of her good advice…..do yourselves a favour and plan ONE date at a time. Try not to think about all the other guys and girls you’re eager to meet - remember, it only takes ONE great person to make you happy… and if it doesn’t work out there are others out there still waiting for you.